Top Male Escorts Explain What Really Drives the Ladies Wild
The orgasm gap — men not knowing how to please women as well as women please men — is a well-documented fact. Research published in the “Archives of Sexual Behavior” discovered 95 percent of heterosexual men usually or always orgasm during sex, whereas only 65 percent of heterosexual women report the same. Similar studies have produced almost identical figures. Basically, each have concluded the same thing: Heterosexual women were the group to report the least frequent orgasms.
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To aid in closing this gap and simultaneously rid heterosexual men of this shameful statistic, two male escorts have shared some tips that get them tips. Allow Nick Hawk (whom you may recognise from the Showtime reality series Gigolos) and Maxime Durocher to teach us a lesson in how to properly please a woman.
Make Her Feel Comfortable
Beyond all else, Hawk says you must make sure the lady you’re in pursuit of is completely comfortable around you. This means maintaining a warm and friendly demeanor in her presence. “Most importantly, you must figure out who you are,” he explains. “If you don’t know who you are, it’s challenging to be open and honest. Women can see this from far away and they do not want to be around a boy who hasn’t developed into a confident man.”
If you’re not good at faking comfort for yourself (let alone for another person you’re trying to court and/or bone), Hawk suggests you portray a character instead. Eventually, the true you will show through. “You must choose the character in life you wish to play and put much practice into being him and own who he is,” he adds.
Get to Know Her on a Deeper Level
You know what women can spot from a while away? Bullshit. So if you’re not willing to get to know her in an honest and genuine way, just quit while you’re ahead.
“In any situation, be attentive to her,” says Durocher. “That doesn’t mean to turn into a butler, it means to really listen to what she has to say, be curious, engage her. If she’s talking about things you know nothing about, ask questions. Be sure this is a conversation where you both have something to say.”
Take Your Time
“Once a woman has opened up to you and is now craving to be touched, you shouldn’t immediately go for kill,” notes Hawk. “Your own knowledge of what feels good and how you like to be touched should guide you when touching her.”
Hawk recommends a massage, attesting the more touching, the better. Then, take it a bit further. Work your mouth to her mouth. “Start by kissing her chest, neck and ears,” he recommends. “Continue to caress her back and work your way to her ass and legs. When you lock lips keep them locked.”
Instead of invading her mouth with your tongue, Hawk suggests stimulating her lips. “Massage and suck on her lips, and lightly caress her tongue and lips with your tongue. Just as the constant body-to-body contact, constant lip-to-lip contact is very stimulating, and really gets a woman going. When she starts grinding on your leg or grabbing you below, it’s time to undress. Do a little more rubbing, work it in slowly, and definitely make sure she is properly lubricated.
Consider Her Orgasm Before Your Own
Compared to a woman’s orgasm, the male orgasm is pretty easy to figure out. That, combined with the lack of knowledge around the clitoris, and it’s no wonder an orgasm gap exists. Taking that into consideration, worry about her orgasm before your own. Be selfless – do it for her, not you. Take pleasure in her pleasure. “The more pleasure you give her on every level, the more she’ll want to give you,” says Durocher. “Always keep in mind, though: Respect, consent and communication are key.”
Read the Cues
There is no better way to determine what works and what doesn’t than through some trial and error. Now, as an adult man, you should know the basic do’s and don’ts (consent is the sexiest thing ever) but beyond that, sex is wildly subjective. Meaning, you’re going to have to do some exploring to find out what each particular lady needs by listening to her cues – excessive moaning and hip gyrations are generally good indicators that you’re doing something right. Once you’ve gotten there, go further and embody the confidence of your master lovemaker.
“When getting it on, the more contact you have the more stimulated you two will be,” says Hawk. “Pay attention to how she responds to determine how hard or fast to go. You can go fast and slow, but teasing is not a turn on. It’s a turn off. When she wants it, give it to her.”
Hawk explains that women don’t want to have to tell you what she wants. Rather, she wants you to figure it out. “These are the men that women want to be touched by. These are the men that women want to be serenaded by. And these are the men that women want to be entangled with in the right amount of mental stimulation, love making and f*cking,” notes Hawk. “There is a formula to pleasing a woman. You need the right amount of emotional stimulation combined with the right amount of physical. And women will have different needs on different days. Experience is what will help you determine the amounts.”
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