My boyfriend and I have been going out for two years and we have always been really close.
I moved in with him a year ago and since then he never seems to text or call me but when I look he is always active on Facebook.
He claims he’s just checking notifications and not looking at anything and says he doesn’t feel the need to text me back as he will be seeing me that night.
I used to assume he was busy at work but that’s not the case any more. Am I right to be annoyed?
I think you have the right to be a bit annoyed.
Social media has a lot to answer for when it comes to causing problems in relationships.
It’s incredibly addictive and leads you to switch off from your partner for big chunks of time.
I’ve been in situations myself when I’ve been talking to my hubby for ages, only to realise he’s been checking Facebook the whole time. I’ve been guilty of it myself.
When you move in together and your relationship is settled, all those little things like texting each other don’t happen as much, but they don’t have to stop altogether.
It’s nice to keep that connection but it’s also nice to have space from each other and have things to talk about when you meet up later.
Maybe if he agrees to detox from Facebook when you’re together, then you could cut back on the number of calls and texts to him during the day?
This could just be a little wake-up call to not start taking each other for granted.
Living with someone is all about compromise.
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