Sex toy technology hasn’t replaced the sublime pleasure of skin on skin with someone you covet, but damn, sometimes it gets real close. Whether you need a little help getting to where you need to go, want to learn some new tricks, or want to have some really, really intense orgasms, here are some ways to incorporate toys into your repertoire.
THE HAPPY ENDING MASSAGE
If you’re with someone who’s not quite sold on sex toys (or if you’re the one who’s shy about them), start out with a non-threatening “personal massager.” Lie on your stomach to unleash some excellent angles of stimulation, and gently guide him to where you’d really like the vibrator to go. If you’re massaging him, watch his body and see if he’s ready to feel it, say, teasing his inner thigh. The fun of this is just experimenting and finding what works.
SIDEWAYS SEX TOY 69
Regular ol’ 69 is somehow always a little dissatisfying. Or, to be more apt, incredibly awkward and overhyped. If you pay attention to what you’re doing with your mouth, it’s hard to get fully get into what’s going on between your legs. Let the wonders of modern machinery work for you here. Lie facing each other in a sideways 69 but instead of mouths, try a masturbation sleeve on him (the Blossom Sleeve is a classic and — bonus! — doesn’t look like a disembodied vag) and have him use a high-end oral simulator on you (the Womanizeror the Lelo Ora 2 are spendy, but amaaaazing.)
THE RIDE OF HIS LIFE
Hop aboard in the much-recommended, yet kind of hard to do IRL Reverse Cowgirl position. Once you’ve figured all that out and are both well into it, press a strong vibrator against the area between his balls and his bum (some people who are not me call it the “taint”). You’ll give him strong prostate stim (in a way that even the most anally adverse dude can probably accept) and he might quite possibly have the best orgasm of his life.
THE MAGICAL VIBRATING PENIS
Once he’s hard but not fully erect, have him slip on a cock ring, which is, yes, a ring that fits around his cock. The ring constricts him a bit, keeping him harder and longer-lasting. You can try something that does alot for him, like the Ro-Zen vibrating cock ring which has a bum plug built in. Meanwhile, you can tend to your own bits with fingers or an unobtrusive vibe (theSlaphappy is flat and fits between you). Or you can get a vibrating ring like the Lelo Tor 2 that turns his penis into Magic Vibrating Penis, plus it has a vibrating top for clitoral pleasure. Scoot a foot or two from the edge of the bed, spread your legs wide and have him enter you standing, leaning his hands on the bed. Rev that shit up and go!
If you are into exploring power dynamics and getting so lost in lust that you are quite willing to beg for it, a remote control vibrator is soooo gonna do it for you. Hand him the controls (make sure he’s worthy of that horsepower, of course) and let him see how crazy he can drive you. Have him tie you to a chair and tend to you as he pleases. Or, some of the newer models like the We-Vibe 4 Plus, come with an app so you can pop it in (in this case, yoga pants are your friend) and go about your business, all jacked up on lust while he’s screwing around remotely with the intensity and vibration patterns.