Everything in our home has been donated by other people and we rely on my benefits to live on – I can’t go on like this.
My so-called boyfriend has never worked. We have a nine-month-old baby whom he’s never provided for.
I can’t work at the moment as I had an operation on my spine for the sciatica I developed when I was pregnant.
He drives me mad playing Xbox.
If it’s not that, he’s watching wrestling on telly or has his face buried in the iPad, keeping me awake watching movies.
I’m being driven mad.
Everything in our home has been donated by other people and we rely on my benefits to live on.
I can’t go on like this. I do everything with my baby on my own – he never joins in or contributes anything.
What advice can you give me?
You’ve said you’re doing everything on your own – and obviously doing a good job – so why have him there?
He’s just an irritant.
You’re taking on all the childcare (and I’m sure the housework too)and paying for everything, so what will you actually miss?
While everyone else is being supportive, he’s living the life of Riley.
He needs a massive wake-up call to make him grow up and start being a proper parent and partner, otherwise you’d be better off somewhere else.
Give him an ultimatum – he either steps up or he has to leave.
And don’t be vague, be specific about exactly what you want – ie, which nights he gets up with the baby, when he does the grocery shop, which days he cleans the house and washes up.
And part of it should be that he actively looks for work.
Make sure you set a deadline – he’s either in 100% or he’s out!
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