I’m in a fairly new relationship. We started seeing each other back in September, then I found out he was still sleeping with his ex girlfriend.
I stopped contacting him, then in January he got back in touch and we’ve been dating since then.
Everything was going fine, but now he doesn’t touch me or ever want to be sexually intimate with me and I’m starting to think he’s getting it from somewhere else.
He also constantly bails on plans at the last minute because “something came up”.
I know sex isn’t everything in a relationship, but it makes me question why we had a really good sex life and now it’s non-existent.
Any sudden change in behaviour is usually a sign that something has altered for your partner. You haven’t been back together that long, so sex should be great at this stage and not a chore.
If your gut is telling you something is wrong, then it probably is and you have to confront him – however difficult that is. It’s always better to know the truth (even if it’s not what you want to hear) than spend your time trying to second-guess what’s going on.
It could be that he’s seeing his ex again and wants to get back with her, but is too cowardly to be upfront about it because he doesn’t know how to tell you.
Even if he claims nothing’s wrong, it’s not working for you. So what you have to think about is that if sex is already an issue, how is that going to work long-term?
It’s normally the one problem you don’t hit when you first date someone if the relationship is right.
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