Sometimes I feel I want to be with a guy, but then if I start thinking about an actual relationship with another man, I find it a real turn-off
I was made redundant earlier this year, so my wife decided to go back to her old job as a well-paid systems analyst. Now it seems we have almost completely changed roles. She’s the breadwinner and now I’m a househusband,
She loves her new role and is taking real pleasure in buying me things – jokey things like rubber gloves, as well as special things.
And just recently she spiced up our lovemaking with new nightwear. It’s like she’s had a new lease of life.
I’m not unhappy with my new role, which has surprised me, but I do feel guilty as I was brought up to believe men were the breadwinners and women were the homemakers.
I suspect I’m not the only man who’s felt this way.
It’s your male pride kicking in and I get that – I think it is harder for some men to accept that role of being the person at home.
However, the beautiful thing about today is that anything goes and there’s nothing emasculating about it.
If you’re happy together and she’s happy doing what she’s doing, then don’t rock the boat – enjoy it. You seem to make a good partnership – you’ve been made redundant, so she’s doing her bit and why shouldn’t she?
When couples are in it for the long haul, it’s normal to go through periods where one is the main breadwinner or where one of you is earning and the other isn’t, and those roles can change several times in a lifetime.
You’re working it out together as you should. Enjoy where you are at the moment and don’t feel guilty about it.
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