Last summer, I didn’t want to go to the pool with my friends because I wasn’t confident enough. And my friends are skinny, but I eat less than them
I’m a girl aged 14 and I’m one of the shorter girls in my year at school. When I look at my body in the mirror I cry because I see myself as fat.
Last summer, I didn’t want to go to the pool with my friends because I wasn’t confident enough.
And my friends are skinny, but I eat less than them.
Last year, I lost a lot of weight and everyone noticed, but I didn’t.
My mum doesn’t know how I feel about my weight and I’m tired of not feeling confident around people.
Firstly, tell your mum exactly how you’re feeling. She loves you unconditionally and will want to know you’re struggling with body confidence so she can help you.
It makes me sad that you’re comparing your body shape to your friends. You’re at that age where your body will change so many times before you’re 18.
My daughter and her friends are 14 and they’re all different shapes and sizes – and they all go through that thing of wanting to be each other.
It’s natural, but it’s important not to get so hung up on it that it becomes all you think about.
You’re still growing and your hormones are changing, so it’s very important to have a healthy diet and not to do anything silly like not eating.
It sounds to me that your problem is to do with confidence rather than how you look. That’s what you need to work on.
I would rather have been taller and slimmer, like most of my colleagues on Loose Women, but I can honestly say that it’s never stopped me having boyfriends or finding love because confidence and feeling comfortable with who you are is more important.
And it’s attractive to other people, too.
If you want to find out if you’re a healthy weight for your age and height, pay a visit to your doctor who can weigh and measure you.
It might help to reassure you and you can get some guidance on your diet at the same time.
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