My boyfriend and I live in different places so, to keep our bond alive, we’ve been sexting each other. He is far more interested in wild sex and out-there fantasies than I am.
Now, he wants me to talk about orgies when we’re having phone sex. I’m not feeling good about this at all. Is it wrong? I’m not sure if I’m overreacting or not.
What do you think?
I think it’s wrong if you don’t want to do it and feel as if you’re being bullied into it. And that goes for just talking about it as well as actually doing it. If you’re not comfortable with it, then of course it’s not wrong to say no.
The bottom line is, if you feel forced into something it’s not good news for your relationship in the long-term because you’ll end up resenting him.
If you’re both happy with what you’ve done so far, then tell him you want to keep it at that level. He’s obviously testing the water and wants more, but you just have to say no and agree on where the boundaries are. If he loves and respects you, he’ll accept that.