My ex and I broke up two years ago because he moved to Australia. We stayed in touch as friends and he has always been there when I’ve needed him.
Recently, a mutual friend died and we were talking about old times. He said he regretted the way he treated me because if he had behaved better we would still be together.
I’m finding it so hard to get my head around this because he has a new girlfriend who he says he loves – so why bring up all this now? We’ve talked about this stuff before, but then we were living in other countries – now we’re in the same one.
I also have a new partner but can’t stop thinking about my ex and wishing I was with him.
Does my ex have real feelings for me or is he just playing games with me?
What’s your advice?
It’s easy to be romantic about the past because it’s the past. And what is he really offering here? On the one hand he says he regrets treating you badly, but then says he loves his girlfriend.
It doesn’t sound to me as if he’s changed at all. How would his girlfriend feel if she heard him say these things to you? People do split up and get back together years later. But if he was genuine, then I doubt he’d be saying he loves his girlfriend.
It’s a thrill to reminisce about a past romance, but if you’re both happy with your partners and want to remain friends, then you need to ask him to stop flirting and talking about your past.
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