I’ve been secretly cross-dressing when my wife is out at work and the feeling of wearing women’s clothes is such a turn on, more so when I wear tights and high heels.
I only do this during the day when I’m in the house, but I often go out at night dressed up, which I know is a risk and it’s getting more and more frequent.
My wife knows I have a tights fetish and she wears them sometimes when we have sex.
I love her dearly, but telling her the truth would take a huge toll on our marriage and I don’t want that.
I wish I could be honest with her, but I know she hates cross dressers.
What do I do?
Perhaps she suspects that you cross-dress or would like to and that’s why she says she “hates” cross-dressers.
It’s her way of closing down the conversation and warning you not to broach the subject with her.
You are taking more risks, which says to me that you’re at a point where you want to be free to cross dress in the open.
It’s almost as if you want to get caught in order to provoke a situation.
You could tell her, in the hope she’ll understand once she’s over the shock and had time to think about it.
But I think the best you can hope for from what you’ve said, is that she’ll turn a blind eye to you dressing up in private, but won’t want to see it or be part of it.
But if it’s a deal breaker for her and it’s the end of your marriage, you might feel freer as a person.
Right now you’re carrying around a lot of guilt about keeping it secret from your wife.
A word of warning, though: if you’re going out more and more dressed as a woman, the chances are that someone will see you and your wife will find out.
Tell her before that happens. Good luck.
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