Ever since he was a little boy my middle son has always been a bit different to his two brothers and now as an adult, all my fears about him have become a reality.
He’s 34 but unlike his brothers who are married and settled, he’s never even had a girlfriend.
He’s always down, withdrawn, lonely and has no friends. He’s never had a proper job and just sits in his flat alone all the time.
I’ve tried talking to him and last year he admitted he was depressed and he let me go with him to the doctor, who prescribed antidepressants.
However, they don’t seem to be enough because his behaviour hasn’t changed and a month ago he told his older brother he doesn’t have anything to live for.
I’m worried sick about him but I feel completely helpless because he doesn’t really let me help. What can I do?
You can try so hard to help those with mental health issues but they have to want it themselves.
Do keep talking to your son. And do keep reassuring him that he has something to live for and that you’re always there for him.
From the sounds of things it sounds like he needs more than just medication – could you, your husband or sons get him to go back to his GP for a referral to a psychiatrist or similar?
If he’s reluctant then I would recommend a trip to your own GP to ask them for advice.
Find out what mental health support there is in your area and check out the mental health charity Mind at mind.org.uk.
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