My granddaughter is 35 years old and recently she found a three-piece suite for us for our living room.
It was a great price, so we decided to buy it and the lady who sold it to us gave us some extra cushions.
But then to my shock, I discovered that my granddaughter had stolen these extra cushions.
I feel very hurt by this and now I can’t help wondering what else she has taken from us. Please help with my dilemma.
I think if you know for a fact that she took the cushions then you have to confront her over it.
Maybe it was a misunderstanding, but if she is stealing, you’re not doing her any favours by ignoring it. If she can steal from people she supposedly loves and is getting away with it, then the next step might be stealing from other people.
However, you have no evidence that she’s taken anything else, so keep it to the cushions unless you can prove she’s taken other things.
Ask her why she took them and see what she has to say for herself. Maybe there’s something at the root of it, like she’s struggling for money and is selling things or maybe she just thought, “I’ll have those!”
Whatever it is, ignoring it isn’t the answer – you’ll just become more annoyed and more suspicious, and it will affect your relationship with her.
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