I cheated on my boyfriend and he forgave me for it, but it was the darkest period in our relationship.
At the time, I gave him plenty of reasons to break up with me, but he chose to stay.
So I ended things with the other guy and tried to make it work with my boyfriend.
We talked it out and I vowed to never do it again.
It’s been two years since it happened and I thought that we’d moved on. Occasionally, I still feel guilty about cheating.
That was until I heard from my friend that my boyfriend is cheating on me.
I can’t help but think that this is revenge for what I did. He won’t even talk to me about it and now I’m feeling guilty all over again.
How can I stop feeling this way?
He has to talk to you about it!
Look, he can’t do that thing of tit for tat, otherwise it could go on and on.
What would be the point in being together if all you’re trying to do is hurt each other?
He chose to forgive you and take you back, but that doesn’t give him the green light to go out and do it himself.
Only you can make the decision about whether you can move on from it and if the relationship is worth saving.
If you decide that you’ve both messed up, but you want to wipe the slate clean from this point and start afresh, then you’ll have to work hard to build up the trust between you again – and that will take time.
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