I’ve been with my boyfriend for six years and he always wanted to marry me, but it never appealed to me, as he’s a few years older.
It got to the point where he’d had enough and we broke up. I kissed someone else but I told him about it when we got back together.
Now we meet up once a week, but just to have sex. When we’re together it’s amazing and I can’t see myself being with anyone else.
So the tables have turned – now I want to marry him, but he’s adamant he’ll never walk down the aisle with me. And he won’t explain exactly why he’s made this decision.
I’ve tried to withhold sex, but I always give in. My head is all over the place because I want him to want me as much as he used to. Please advise.
Maybe this is his way of punishing you for refusing to marry him and he’s showing you what it feels like.
I know you’ve realised now that you do in fact want to be with him, but if you let yourself be used and put up with the situation, what reason does he have to change his mind?
As marvellous as sex is, will it be enough for you? I don’t think so.
Take a stand and explain to him that if there’s no future for your relationship, you want to part ways because you’re not in it just for sex. It might make him rethink things and realise that he does want to be with you after all.
However, you may have to accept that he’s moved on emotionally and your interest in marriage has come a little too late.
I think you need a period of separation to work out what you feel for each other.
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