I’m in my early 30s and don’t have children yet – although my boyfriend and I have been trying for more than a year.
I’m sure you’ve heard it all before, but all my close friends have young children and I’m feeling left out.
It’s not just jealousy, which I do feel sometimes, but I think their attitude to me has changed. They do more stuff together and organise kids’ things without inviting me along.
I don’t think they mean to be hurtful, but what should I do?
I don’t think they mean it either, but now a few of them have kids, they have something in common. And first-time mums really rely on each other for support.
If I were you, I’d say, “Listen, you know I’ve been trying for a baby but I’m really happy for all of you so when you’re planning things, invite me because it upsets me more when you don’t”.
They’re probably not sure what to do for the best – they might be worried about asking you in case it upsets you or maybe they assume you don’t want to be there listening to crying kids and mum chat.
Also, if you’ve been trying for more than a year, see your GP who can refer you for tests to rule out any physical problems that may be preventing you from conceiving. Good luck.
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