I’m in a long-distance relationship with a girl who I love, and I’m now in the process of arranging things so we can be closer.
However, I currently live in the same town as my ex, who was my first love.
My ex has started reaching out to me and recently asked if I would be interested in hooking up.
We ended up agreeing that we should try to be just good friends.
But it seems that every time we talk to each other, we end up back on the sex topic – making it harder and harder for me to restrain myself.
I love my current girlfriend, but my crazy sex drive is driving me up the wall.
When my girlfriend and I are together, we are all over each other, but then we head back to our respective homes, I’m left feeling very horny and frustrated.
It doesn’t help having a girl I used to sleep with living just four minutes away. She tells me she’s only interested in a quickie, which makes it even more appealing.
I know my sex drive could get me into trouble, but I still want to maintain the friendship with my ex.
What do you think?
I think you’re kidding yourself – and me.
First of all, there’s no way you can maintain this friendship with your ex. End of story.
Tell her you have no intention of ruining things with your girlfriend, and then stop returning her calls and messages.
This ‘friendship’ is only heading one way and that’s straight to the bedroom.
If you really love your girlfriend and want it to work, then carry on making plans to be nearer to her and don’t blow it for five minutes of madness.
Secondly, you can restrain yourself.
Let’s be frank here – even if you have a high sex drive, you can indulge in some solo fun.
Finally, this ex of yours is clearly not a nice girl if she’s trying to get you into bed when she knows you’re with someone else.
Cut her off and sort yourself out.
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