I’m a 15-year-old boy and desperately need your advice. I met a girl who’s 16 and we became friends very quickly, which led on to us dating.
However, I also have a male friend who I have a huge crush on and he’s also 15.
Recently, we were supposed to go to a disco with his girlfriend and mine but, instead, I went back to his house and we slept together – more than once.
I think I love him, so should I admit to my girlfriend I want to be with him?
My mum and dad have known I’m gay for a long time.
Please give me some advice. I can’t help the way I feel.
I don’t think you really need my advice because you know what you should do and that’s to tell your girlfriend.
If you’re not ready to admit to her that you’re gay, then don’t. But you do need to end things because it’s not fair to lead her on. And the longer you leave it, the more she’ll fall for you and the more hurt she’ll be when you do break it off.
You also owe it to yourself. I don’t think you want to live your life telling lies.
You have nothing to be ashamed of. Yes, there are people out there who are homophobic, but they’re getting fewer and it’s young kids like you who can carry on changing attitudes.
What’s good is that your parents are aware of your sexuality and hopefully they’ll support you if you do want to come out.
Finally, at 15 you might feel physically ready to have sex, but you may not be emotionally ready. So take things slowly, don’t feel pressured into anything – and be safe.
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