Getting more blow jobs? Yes please!
Have you ever wondered why women HATE giving head to some guys and LOVE going down on others?
If so, get excited… because you’re about to learn exactly what you might have been doing to turn your girl off from giving you head and exactly what you need to do different to make her love it!
First, let’s take a look at:
6 Reasons Women Hate Giving Blowjobs
1. You don’t clean up first
If it’s been more than a couple of hours since your last shower, you’re not going to smell your best. Also, keep in mind that hair attracts odor so if you don’t already, start trimming down there and you’ll look and smell much more appetizing.
2. You choke her
One of the most common frustrations women have is gagging and a fear of choking. So STOP pushing her head down and NEVER force her to go deeper or you’ll only make her less likely to do it again in the future.
NOTE: Some girls like gagging on you. Some girls REALLY like it! But they are few and far between so unless she’s specifically asked for it, stay on the safe side and let her be in control of the bj.
3. You beg for it
Begging isn’t sexy. Head by guilt also tends to be pretty lousy. So don’t do it! Instead, learn what makes her WANT (and even LOVE) to do it (parts 2 and 3 of this article will show you how.)
4. You don’t care how your cum tastes.
If she’s going down on you, it’s because she wants to please and/or tease you.
She knows that swallowing would please you too. But if you taste like sewer water (and most guys do), she’s not going to want it anywhere near her mouth. Ask her where she wants you to come… or make yourself taste better.
Also never, ever come in her mouth without warning. If you do, getting head will be a thing of the past and you’ll only have yourself to blame.
5. You take too long
Does she want to “finish you” with a bj? Does she want to make you horny so you can get it on? Whatever the answer, don’t let it take too long.
Head that lasts more than 10 minutes will probably result in a sore jaw. Her position can become uncomfortable. She can start to wonder if you’re not coming because of her skills.
All of this can make her begin to associate negative feelings to giving you head and will only hurt your chances at getting more in the future.
6. You don’t give her enough feedback
This is without question the most important thing you need to keep in mind when receiving.
If you’re acting like a dead fish who doesn’t move, moan, or let her know how incredible she’s making you feel, she’s not going to have a good time. So many guys make this mistake, and it turns a fun old bj into a boring chore that she’ll want to get over with as quickly as possible.
4 Things She Likes About Giving Blowjobs.
1. She likes the way you smell and taste… when you’re clean!
When you’re clean and your manhood isn’t engulfed in an aroma of day old sweat… you actually smell and taste good to a lot of women. Some say this is caused by natural pheromones produced by your body.
Either way, after a few “visits,” your scent will get associated to the emotions she’s feeling. Just make sure she’s having fun and soon your smell alone will trigger these positive emotions.
2.The way you RECEIVE turns her on.
If you want her to have fun going down on you, let her SEE, FEEL and HEAR that you’re having fun.
3. She LOVES the power
Again, the only way for her to feel this power is to let her see, feel and hear that you’re enjoying it. When you make her feel that she is the source of this mind-blowing pleasure you’re getting, she feels powerful, sexy and wanted. Every once in a while, tell her to stop because you’re about to lose control.
Let her feel and enjoy the power of controlling your pleasure.
4. She likes returning the favor
As guys, we really are lucky. We can give a woman 67 different types of orgasms BEFORE penetration sex!
Women (on the other hand) don’t have nearly as many options. So when you use just a few of the 67 ways to make her come first, she will be compelled to return the favor. Never think “I made her come so now she owes me one.”
But let’s be real – we’re human, and as Cialdini pointed out, we all feel an inherent, compelling need to reciprocate. So let human nature do its thing and start the cycle by giving her many different types of orgasms and you’ll both benefit!
How To Make Her Addicted To Going Down on You
When a woman has an orgasm, her brain releases a chemical called oxytocin. Some call it the love chemical because it floods our brain when we fall in love. Like any chemical, we can (and often do) associate it to a specific act or event that happens around us at the time of its release.
So if you give your girl a very specific type of orgasm every time you’re in her mouth, her subconscious mind will associate the 2 together.
Do this a few times and going down on you will trigger the heightened feelings. Maybe you buy a special vibrator that she’s only allowed to use when giving you a bj.
Or maybe you get into a 69 position and use one of the 67 ways to make her come first. Just make sure you only use that specific technique when she’s going down on you.
Also keep in mind that you only need to be in her mouth. If she just “holds” you in her mouth during her orgasm, your taste, smell and feel will get associated to her pleasure. If she’s too focused on making you come, she won’t be able to.
By now I’m sure you can see why the way you RECEIVE determines how much she does (or doesn’t) enjoy giving it to you.
You might also be thinking “This is awesome Nick, I can see exactly how I was not so great at receiving blowjobs missing before, but now that I know, how do I get one in the first place?”
I’m glad you asked.
Make her come first.
Make her come more.
Make her come often and give her different types of orgasms. Remember, reciprocation is wired into our brains. I guarantee that when you start giving her multiple kinds of foreplay orgasms, she will reciprocate!