My girlfriend and I don’t have sex regularly. I’m a highly-sexed guy and want it constantly. I’m not naive enough to think we should be having it all the time, but to have no sexual contact in months is just not going to work for me.
I’m only 22 and my girlfriend is 20, so surely we should be enjoying sexual experiences rather than acting like a pair of old age pensioners?
You might just not be compatible sexually and if it’s not working for you and you can’t accept things the way they are long term, then you have to be honest with her.
Of course sex is a very important factor, but it’s more about compatibility as opposed to notching up how many times you do it a week. If neither of you had a high sex drive, then that would work – you’d be compatible.
Problems arise when one of you is more interested in sex than the other.
At your age, if you go for long periods without being intimate, then that would suggest to me that things aren’t working on that level.
If you stay in the relationship and get more frustrated, the chances are it won’t be long before you end up cheating and then you’ll have even more problems.
But talk to her – ask her why she’s not interested and see if there’s a way to work it out.
And don’t write off old age pensioners – many of them are very happy in the bedroom!