I did a stupid thing recently – I bought a pack of condoms and put an unused one in the bathroom I share with my husband.
We don’t use them, but I did it to see how much he trusts me because I’m sick of him always accusing me of cheating.
Obviously, he was angry as hell when he found it and I told him he’d failed the test. But I just feel he’s testing me all the time, so I wanted to play him at his own game.
Well, it was a stupid test – he’s accusing you of cheating, so you buy condoms.
To him, it just confirmed his suspicions.
First, stop testing each other. It’s pretty childish.
Instead, you should be trying to work out how you can start to trust each other again. Do you want to live your lives testing each other all the time?
Have you ever thought of just sitting down and having an adult conversation about your relationship and what’s making him so insecure, especially if you’ve never given him a reason to be suspicious?
I understand that it’s very wearing if you’re constantly trying to reassure your partner when you’ve done nothing wrong.
But don’t add fuel to the fire with silly tests.