My partner of 16 years has just told me he likes to cross dress and that he’s also bisexual. While I can cope with him dressing as a woman, I cannot accept him having sex with men. I feel it’s being unfaithful, but he says it’s not.
I love him so much, but feel that if he does have sex with someone else it’s the end for us as a couple.
Am I being unreasonable?
No, you are not being unreasonable. He can’t use being bisexual as a pass to sleep with whoever he wants.
I think it’s great that you’ve accepted his cross dressing, but sleeping with anyone else – male or female – while he’s in a relationship with you is cheating, pure and simple.
It doesn’t make it OK because it’s someone of the same sex.
You need to be very clear about what you’re willing to accept and what you’re not, and if he can’t stick to those boundaries out of respect for you and your relationship, then it simply isn’t going to work.
At the moment, what he wants is to have his cake and eat it.