I’m a 26-year-old woman and I work as a relief worker – which takes me all over the world when I get the call.
Unlike most people I didn’t build a network of friends at college and now I have no friends my own age to socialise with.
I should also add that I was bullied in primary school and the only friend I made in secondary school has moved away and is engaged.
Where I live, my peers are tightly knitted into their groups of friends and I don’t belong to one of these groups, as I moved away to go to college and start afresh.
It’s frustrating because I’m an outgoing, kind and genuine girl. I feel lonely and I worry that my youth is passing me by because of this social problem.
I feel I’m missing out socially because I’m so detached from my peer group. Help!
I think you’ve got into a rut of thinking you don’t fit in anywhere, and you spend so much time thinking about what you haven’t got you don’t focus on what you have got – and that’s a lot.
You’re outgoing and bubbly and kind, so you’re in the perfect position to go for it.
Join some local groups – I know loads of people who love Zumba and have met tons of friends through it. Often they’ll go for a drink after class. Just get out of the house and try a few things.
You have to put yourself in the right situations to give yourself the chance to meet people.
If you think about it, that’s how kids make some of their best friends – after-school clubs like swimming lessons and gymnastics. It’s the same for grown-ups!