I was working in an office for 10 months and I met a guy there. On my first day, back in January, I was in the kitchen and he came up behind me and introduced himself.
After that we spoke all the time when we were in kitchen making tea. We seemed to have a really good connection and we got close to each another one weekend.
He took me out for a drive to get to know me better and that’s when he made his first move on me.
Months went by and I thought we were getting on really well, then one day I went into work feeling down and he asked if I was OK.
I told him what was bothering me and he was a big support and told me if I had any problems I could always talk to him. I trusted him and I felt relaxed in his company.
We also chatted online and texted, too, but then one day when I was checking Facebook he was gone from my friends list. He’d deleted me and I still don’t know why.
My friends have said I should let him get in touch, but it’s driving me mad. I haven’t seen him since the end of July when I left the company and we haven’t spoken to each other either.
I really miss him, but I don’t know how he feels. I bumped into an old colleague and she said he was talking about me to her, saying I didn’t work at the company any more. It’s making me think he does still care about me and misses me, too. Any thoughts?
Honestly, I don’t think that suggests he still cares for you. It sounds like it’s more a case of, ‘you’ve left. It was nice while it lasted, but I’ve moved on’.
Instead of being a grown-up and explaining that to you, he’s removed you from Facebook so you can’t hassle him, asking why. It is frustrating – a bit like not reading the last chapter of a book.
But sometimes you have to accept things as they are and move on. If he’d really wanted to get in touch after you left your job he would have messaged you via Facebook or texted you. So, for whatever reason, I think that’s it for him.
And if it’s not, I agree with your friend. Let him contact you.
Maybe he couldn’t deal with whatever you’d told him and didn’t want to get any more involved and it was quite handy for him that you left the job, so he could delete you from Facebook without having to face you in the office kitchen.
Don’t waste any more of your time trying to come up with answers. Trust me, he won’t be doing that.
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