Why is it that the men you’re interested in are never interested in you, and the ones that you aren’t, are? This seems to be the common denominator in my love life.
One guy I had a crush on last year was just stringing me along and a flirtation I had with my local train driver came to a halt (ahem).
Now I’m attracted to someone who’s recently started working in my local supermarket. At the moment, we’re just stealing glances at each other as I’m too shy to speak to him for fear it’s one-sided.
Meanwhile, I’m getting attention from men I’m not interested in – i.e. an ex-colleague I’ve known for years keeps turning our conversations into something sleazy and sexual.
How can I find a man who likes me as much as I like him? Am I giving out some sort of vibe to men I have no interest in?
Well there’s nothing wrong with men finding you attractive, as long as you make it clear you don’t feel the same. I wouldn’t feel insulted.
I don’t think you’re unique in fancying men who don’t fancy you back – I think we’ve all been there.
Also, I think it’s human nature to be attracted to people who are hard to get – it makes us want them even more! But you can’t force it.
Maybe you are giving out a slightly desperate aura, which is scaring off the ones you like and attracting the ones you don’t – they might be thinking they’re in with a chance.
Instead of hunting out potential boyfriends, do nothing for a while and see if something evolves naturally – it could be with the supermarket guy or someone else.
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