I’m a 28-year-old guy and have recently started seeing a gorgeous, vivacious young woman I met during a religious retreat to Lourdes with our local church.
We hit it off straight away and have wonderful chemistry. We are all set to move things on to the next level, but one thing in particular is holding me back – my Tourette’s.
I have suffered all my life with the condition, which becomes more acute during moments of excitement. The issue is more sensitive to me because a previous partner made derogatory comments when I shouted ‘petrol bomb’ two or three times during sex and I have now become a nervous wreck during passionate interludes.
I realise that the right person will understand my condition, and perhaps even make light of my outbursts, but I’m really worried nevertheless.
The only thing you can be is honest. I assume she already knows you have Tourette’s so, before things get to that next level, be open and tell her what you’re capable of shouting out during sex and explain how an ex made you feel very self-conscious and embarrassed.
Trust me, if she’s the right person and you’re comfortable with each other, it won’t matter. Clearly your ex wasn’t that person.
I really admired Pete Bennett who was a contestant on Big Brother in 2006 and, like you, had Tourette’s.
He was so confident in himself – his attitude was, ‘This is me, take it or leave it’ – and everyone loved him for it. The right woman will love you for who you are.
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