I’m 26 and I work in a really fun office full of people my age. I’ve been single for 18 months and in that time I’ve struck up a bit of a thing with this guy in my office.
Nothing has happened yet – we haven’t even kissed – but we get on really well and I think he likes me. The only trouble is he’s got a reputation as the office womaniser.
He’s slept with several girls in the office and he hasn’t always treated them very well.
The last girl he slept with he pretty much stopped calling her straight after their night together and she was so upset.
Recently, he’s told me he’s got feelings for me and he’s been asking me out to lunch. I want to go because I really like him, but the only thing holding me back is this reputation of his.
I told him this and he told me it’s different with me and that, unlike all the other girls, he actually has real feelings for me.
I can’t stop thinking about him but I don’t want to get hurt.
What should I do?
All the evidence is there that this guy is going to sleep with you and then move on. So I think you have to tread very carefully.
I’m not saying you should avoid him. I’m saying that if you go for lunch with him, be open-minded.
He sounds like a right charmer who knows exactly what to say to get what he wants.
There’s every chance you’ll go out with him and he’ll treat you like all those other girls. And you work together so if it goes wrong it’ll be a nightmare.
Plus, don’t forget he’s slept with some of your work friends. I would be put off by that.
I might be wrong and maybe you are the girl who can make him change his ways. But if you do go out with him, delay sleeping with him for as long as possible.
But to be honest, there are enough good guys out there not to bother with the ones who sleep with girls and then never call them again.
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