My relationship recently ended because my ex didn’t feel the spark was there any more. I was pretty shocked and upset. And even though he ended it, I now feel as though he’s leading me on.
When he was breaking up with me he said he couldn’t handle a relationship and it “wasn’t the right time”, but wanted to stay with me just “without a label”.
Now he keeps calling me to say he wishes he’d never split up and that it did work.
Should I call it quits for good to save me the heartbreak again?
Um, yes! He sounds like he’s messing you about, dangling you on a string and keeping his options open.
And don’t even think about having sex with him because that most certainly does have a label – it’s called friends with benefits, AKA having his cake and eating it!
If he’s genuinely got to a point where he thinks you should be together and have another go at the relationship, then you need to let him go properly.
If he really wants it, he’ll work hard at winning you back and proving it to you.
Right now, it sounds to me as if he’s not sure he wants you, but isn’t ready for you to get over him. He doesn’t sound committed in any way to a relationship.
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