I split with my ex two years ago and we have three children together. The problem is, I still love him – but he told me he didn’t want to try to make things work.
I tried to move on and went out with a man a few times. But since finding out, he’s saying I effectively cheated and ruined any chance we had.
He is the first person to help or listen if I need someone and vice versa and it’s hard to cut ties because of the kids.
I don’t want to do that anyway – my gut instinct tells me he still loves me but he is being stubborn.
I don’t want to beg him and have my pride hurt again or scare him off. I’m really confused about what I should do.
He’s being very unfair, not to mention arrogant. He has told you he doesn’t want to try to repair your relationship, so what does he expect you to do? Live like a nun?
I think all you can do is explain how you feel – that you still love him and want to be with him but felt you had no chance so you tried to move on. And then back off and let him think about it.
Let him know that if he decides it’s over and there’s no chance of reconciliation, then your life has to go on and dating this other man proves that it can.
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