My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. He has a very short temper and tends to bounce from mood to mood.
I too have a very short temper, but it wasn’t until a couple of months ago that things started to get physical between us.
I want your opinion on whether we should carry on if we’re both trying to hurt each other or should we consider seeing someone about the problem? Our arguments never last for more than a day and by the evening it’s like it was when we first got together.
He is the love of my life and I know he feels the same way about me, which is why I need to know whether it’s worth holding on to and, if not, I will let him go to be happy.
Just because you love each other doesn’t mean you’re good for each other.
Of course there’s something deeply wrong with your relationship when you’ve become violent towards each other.
And what’s the next step? One of you ends up in hospital?
There is nothing loving about a relationship where violence is present. And it would be hard, if not impossible, to come back from.
I think you’re at the point where you need to walk away from each other and learn from it, so you won’t repeat the same behaviours when you meet someone else.
I don’t think you’re compatible – certainly not in terms of a serious, long-term relationship.
Yes, you could try counselling but, when things turn violent, it usually means you’ve gone past the point of no return.
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