My son is starting school in September and I’m nervous at the prospect of empty-nest syndrome.
I gave up work and have been a full-time mum to him. Over the past year he’s been at nursery two mornings a week, but the rest of the time we’ve been inseparable.
How can I deal with him moving on? I know it sounds silly, but it feels like such a big change.
I’d love another child, but my husband and I stopped contraception when our son was two and I haven’t got pregnant.
It’s a massive thing when they go to school and it does feel like it’s their first step of moving away from you, but it’s really not. My eldest son Shane Jnr is 26 and he’s renting his own place now, but I’m still so involved in his life.
Your son will always need you, too, no matter how old he is. On Shane’s first week at school, I paced the house watching the clock for “home time”. It’s natural to miss them. But when your son comes home and is showing you all the stuff he’s made and chatting about his new friends, you’ll be so thrilled for him.
Plus, there will loads of other mums at the school gates feeling exactly how you do and I’m sure you’ll find friends among them.
It won’t be long before those six hours in the day become your haven. As for another baby, take time to consider if it’s what you really want or if you’re panicking and hoping to fill that space when your son goes to school.
But if adding to your family is important to you, then it’s worth seeing your doctor.
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