I have always been active and fit and have looked after myself. However, a couple of times I have overheard people say that I dress inappropriately for my age and that I shouldn’t go topless on the beach. I’m 65.
I have always felt comfortable being topless to get an even tan and, looking around at some of the younger girls who go topless, I feel pretty good because they look quite dreadful.
I dress how I want to. Why should I dress “appropriately for my age”? I don’t want to and I’m not ready to, and I wondered how you felt about this.
Should I continue to enjoy life as I do? Personally, I feel that life is too short to do what other people want me to do.
If I did what others expected of me, I would be covering up in a swimsuit and a sarong, as most women my age do.
I want to stay true to myself but it’s hard when I get such negative comments. I have sent a couple of photos with my letter, just to show you that I keep my body in check. I’d love your opinion.
I think you should go for it if you’re confident with your own body and the clothes you wear. Who cares what other people think?
No matter what we do in life, there are always people judging us and desperate to give us their opinion whether we’ve asked for it or not. You sound like someone who’s full of life and positivity, so don’t let these comments from other people change all that.
If some of your friends aren’t comfortable with your attitude then they don’t have to accompany you to the beach.
If you have children and grandchildren, they might feel uncomfortable seeing their mum and their granny topless, so put a bikini top on if you’re sitting by pool and they are there.
But, other than that, no one has the right to tell you what to do or suggest what to wear, however old
I’ve seen your pictures and you have a cracking figure for 65. And the clothes you’re wearing really suit you.
It’s not like you’re in a leather mini and basque top!
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