I’ve been with my partner for five months now and everything is going really well. I am very happy.
She has a four-year-old daughter and I get on great with her too. The only problem is her ex, who is also her daughter’s father.
He is still madly in love with my girlfriend and is sending her dirty texts to try and win her back, even though she’s told him multiple times that’s she’s moved on. I feel helpless.
I think your girlfriend has to draw up some guidelines when it comes to contact with her ex. He needs to know where the line is.
She shouldn’t be engaging with him or responding to any text messages that aren’t strictly to do with the arrangements they have for their daughter.
It’s annoying and frustrating for you but I’d resist the urge to wade in and tell him where to go.
However, your girlfriend should know that it’s not something you’re prepared to put up with.
You haven’t been dating long, so I imagine the more time goes on and as long as she continues to ignore any inappropriate texts, he’ll get the message and start to move on himself.
If she replies with angry texts, he’ll love the fact he’s winding you both up because his aim will be to drive a wedge between you. Stay united and don’t rise to the bait.
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