I’m a 29-year-old woman and my husband never wants to go to bed with me. We used to get on so well, but one night I told him he stank of alcohol when he came home after being out with pals.
There was just something about the way he was and the way he smelled that was very peculiar, and my immediate thought was that he’d cheated on me.
He insisted nothing had happened and I ended up apologising for accusing him. But since that night he has tried to avoid me – and can’t even look me in the eye. What shall I do? Should I leave him or stay?
Don’t just leave without finding out what’s going on.
I agree – avoiding you, not sleeping with you and not looking you in the eye are all bad signs and point to a guilty conscience.
Maybe what you need to say to him is that he may as well tell you the truth because it can’t be any worse than what you’re already thinking – that he has cheated or is having an affair.
Tell him you’re thinking of leaving him anyway, so he has nothing to lose by being honest.
You have every right to push him because he’s acting so strangely and has cut himself off from you emotionally and physically.
If you’re wrong, apologise. But he must see that he’s doing nothing to reassure you that you’ve got the wrong end of the stick.
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