My ex-boyfriend left me for another girl. Months later he contacted me and told me he has cancer and it’s terminal. He claimed that he left me because he thought I deserved a better guy and not to be with someone who is dying. He still contacts me on a daily basis.
I honestly don’t know what he wants from me. If he left me because of the cancer, as he claims, why is he with another girl? And why is he still contacting me when he has her?
What do you think I should do?
Well, it’s sad if it’s true that he’s ill. It seems odd that he didn’t tell you about his illness when it was diagnosed and before leaving you for this other girl. It’s a big thing not to tell your partner, especially if it’s the reason you’ve decided to end the relationship.
Don’t go back to him or start sleeping with him out of pity. Maybe he just needs someone to confide in because he can’t talk to his girlfriend. If you don’t mind being the person he confides in, tell him that. But add that you are not interested in a relationship with him because he’s with someone else. Make it crystal clear from the outset and see if he still wants your friendship.
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