Q: I really enjoy oral sex, both giving and receiving. I’d even go far enough to say I like it more than intercourse. I know that “going down” on him without a condom poses some risk of STDs.
The thing is, I hate the taste of condoms. But I am with a new guy and I want to play it safe. Are there better options out there for safer oral sex or do I just have to suck it up and deal with latex-y odors and tastes? Signed, Hopeful in Huntington.
A: Oral sex with a condom or dam is one of those things that sex educators teach, but few seem to practice. Many people seem to think that oral sex is not “real” sex and that they aren’t at any risk. (Or the risk is too small to actually matter.) However,many of the infections that can transmit from vaginal or anal sex can certainly be transmitted during oral sex. It’s important to practice safety consistently, especially with a new partner.
You are hardly alone in disliking the taste of latex. This is why superior flavored condoms and lube exist. GLYDE has a fantastic line made with organic fruit extracts. I always recommend exploring your best options with a flavored condom sampler.
You could also try non-latex condoms with flavored lube. One of the great things about polyisoprene condoms is that they have little to no smell or taste. You can then add your own favorite flavor of lube. There’s an array of luscious lube flavorsout there. Salted caramel, vanilla bean or blue raspberry anyone?
While you might be concerned that oral sex won’t feel as good with a barrier, I have a pro tip for you: Put a few drops of silicone lube on the partner who’ll be receiving oral sex prior to applying the condom or dam. It will make a dramatic difference, as it really enhances sensitivity.