When the Ashley Madison hackers threatened to unveil the identities of its 37 million users, many remained defiant.
Forced to confront the idea their infidelities may be outed, several of the site’s adulterers have had to make a decision.
Wait and see what happens next? Or come clean to their spouses now?
Possibly for the first time, they are having to examine the potential consequences of their cheating.
Not to mention their consciences.
Douglas, who has been using the site for a long time, found himself driven by guilt to confess to his wife.
But for him, this merely marks the beginning of a lifelong fight with his remorse, living with the damage he has caused.
In a heartfelt plea to other husbands and fathers, he tells Mirror Online why this mistake millions of others are making is just not worth it.
Torment between life and death
“When I joined the site many years ago I was surprised to find that the only way to even attempt to communicate with women there required that I pay.
“I did, and I soon found that even that left me feeling so guilty and remorseful that I could hardly bear it.
“I went weeks feeling overwhelming sadness and prayed to God to forgive me for even desiring to look outside my marriage.
“Since the news of this hack, all of those feelings are again fresh and constant.
“I love my wife – and again I prayed.
“This time I have gone to her, and confessed that I had signed up on that site.
“She has only love in her, because she has forgiven me.
“But, I can never forgive myself. I will forever be remorseful.
“I now have to contemplate how I will tell the others – my daughters, my father, my friends.
“It’s all of my own making, and I may lose those people in my life that give me the will to go on living.
“I hate myself and that I’ve done something that will lead others who have always had faith in me to feel embarrassment.
“This is like being between life and your own death. The pain is fresh and constant.
“This is what was like those many years back when I quickly realized that even the thought of cheating – was cheating.
“I hope and pray – yes, pray – that others will not make that mistake.
“Please, if you are even thinking about it, don’t do it. For the people you love, don’t do it.
“For your own soul, please don’t do it.”