What would you do if you found out your husband or wife was having an affair?
Specifically, how would you react if the well-publicised hack of an adultery website meant you found out your spouse had been cheating?
Owing to breach of data on Ashley Madison this week, many men and women are having to deal with these revelations.
Several of the 37 million love rats on the site say they have had to come clean.
Some are driven to out of fear of being named and shamed anyway. Others like Douglas, allege they are motivated by guilt.
But whether their confessing confirms years of suspicion, or pulls the rug out from under them, it is their spouses who bare the brunt of the fall-out.
In the wake of that fall-out, two wives and victims of the hack have come forward to share what this digital-age betrayal has meant for them.
I knew he was playing away
Relief. I discovered my husbands profile on there after discovering an affair.
It was easy to find. Like most people involved with AM this was not the only thing he was doing.
He was flirting at networking meetings, having an affair with a book-keeper at work and visiting prostitutes and massage parlours.
If you are using websites like AM be prepared that both you and your wife or partner may need to visit an STI clinic.
Also, question why you are doing this?
If you are not happy at home the only honest thing to do is leave.
If you don’t want to leave then why look elsewhere?
Lives will be shattered, shut it down.
I am a victim of AM. I am all for shutting the site down.
I am against humiliating innocent spouses and families as a by-product of the exposure.
My husband found the site at a low point in our life on a popular news show.
How many people (hundreds? Thousands? ) will have their life shattered as mine was, as a result of all of the exposure in the news?
I am reeling with all the triggers from all the news. I, the victim, am suffering after 2 years of trying to rebuild.