I’m a bisexual girl of 16. I have really strong feelings for one of my best friends – she’s just perfect in every way and is also bi.
She has feelings for me too but she has a boyfriend, who is also a close friend of mine. I know she really loves him so it’s hard for me.
When I’m at a party with her and we get drunk, we end up kissing – on two occasions, things went further.
But although I’ve been drunk, I’ve been aware of what I’m doing – and I feel I can stop at any time but don’t want to. It makes me feel really selfish but I can’t resist.
She knows I have feelings for her although I’m not sure she knows how much I care. I just can’t stop thinking about her and it hurts. What’s your advice?
This whole thing is going to blow up in your face at some point and blow all your friendships out of the water.
It doesn’t matter whether you’re bi, straight or a hundred things in-between, the fact is your friend is in a relationship with someone and is being unfaithful when she hooks up with you. She needs to make a decision.
If it keeps happening because you’re drunk, then don’t drink (at 16 you’re too young to drink anyway!).
It’s tough because you have feelings for her, but while she’s in a relationship you should back off. And think about this: if she did leave him and go out with you, would you trust her? If she can cheat on him, who you say she loves, she can cheat on you too.
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