I married my long-term lover not even a year ago and I’m already faltering.
My husband and I both fought hard for our relationship and now I’m spoiling it all.
I feel I need to work out what it is I really want before I break my husband’s heart.
What’s going on with me and how can I sort out this mess?
I’ve heard of this scenario so many times – long-term lovers finally tie the knot and then it quickly implodes.
My friend was with her partner for 13 years before they got married – and in less than a year they were divorced.
I think for some couples in long-term relationships there’s obviously a reason they don’t commit to marriage.
Then when they do get hitched, it’s like a lightbulb going off and they realise they no longer want to be with that person.
I think other people panic and think, “Is this it now?” Maybe you got married because you felt you should or were expected to.
I think deep down you do know what you want and it’s not this – you’ve had an affair in the first year.
If that is the case, you need to own up and admit that getting married was a mistake. Yes, you’ll break his heart, but it’ll be worse if he finds out about your affair.
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