I’m extremely worried about my best friend.
She’s started working as an escort and is selling herself for money. S
he’s previously been sectioned and suffers from mental health issues.
She won’t listen to me when I try to talk her out of it – she sees nothing wrong in what she’s doing and thinks it’s normal behaviour.
I don’t think it is and I’m terrified for her wellbeing and safety.
What do I do?
It’s very difficult for you because, ultimately, it’s her life and her decision.
However, as her friend you can keep reinforcing that you believe she’s better than this job she’s chosen and has more to offer.
Whenever you see her, spend time building up her self-esteem.
Maybe you could also try to get her thinking about her future and when she meets someone she falls madly in love with.
Yes, there are people out there who it won’t matter to, but not that many. And, no matter how much money she earns, how much enjoyment will it really give her when she thinks about how she earned it?
As for her safety, you don’t explain whether she’s doing this alone or is part of an agency, which would offer her more protection.
Maybe you could persuade her to share some information about her clients and where she does business.
But you can’t force her to stop.
Yes, you could tell other people in her life – other good friends and family – but you’d risk losing her as a friend, and the danger is she’ll isolate herself because she feels she has no one to confide in.
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