Fleshy, visually-erotic and highly sensitive during arousal, the derriere is perfectly designed to be spanked by a loving partner during sexual play. And since they share the same neural pathways to the brain as the genitals, stimulating these “cheeky” orbs can also be a potent source of sensual pleasure for the recipient.
Sexual spanking of the buttocks inspires an increased level of trust and intimacy between partners which makes it a popular activity for both BDSM and vanilla folks alike. When done properly and with a bit of finesse, sexual spanking can invigorate both the body and mind of the “spankee” and send them spiraling into erotic bliss. It is often incredibly gratifying for the “spanker” too.
Popular Positions for Sexual Spanking
Across your lap: This is a good position when using spanking as a form of foreplay and role-play or when the weight of your lover is not an issue. Sitting on either an armless chair or the edge of a sofa or bed with your feet firmly planted on the floor, lay your partner across your lap. Be sure to place them in a position that will enable you to easily use your non-spanking hand to hold them securely in place above their hip.
Bent over furniture: An ideal choice would be a desk, table, upholstered chair, sofa or any fixture where your partner can comfortably lay down their arms and chest while standing. This spanking position is especially popular when role-playing.
The bed: Two of the most popular positions for sexual spanking involve your partner either on all fours a la doggy style or while laying their head, chest and arms on the bed with their derriere propped up on its own or with the aid of pillows under their hips. Because of the comfort level of these positions, your partner is more likely to endure longer spanking sessions. These are also idyllic positions if you are interested in spanking during sexual intercourse.
How to Hand Spank Your Lover’s Bottom
Now of course, for sexual spanking to be a pleasurable experience for both partners, it must involve more than haphazardly smacking your lover’s behind. Here are a few recommendations:
Never engage in sexual spanking when angry and be sure to always retain control over the strength of your slaps; if it hurts you then it is hurting your partner. Never smack both cheeks simultaneously as it will prevent you from spanking accurately which may end up hurting your partner and not in a good way.
Cup your hand slightly while holding your fingers firmly together, to reduce the stinging sensation to both your hands and your lover’s derriere. Some couples have found that wearing thin unlined leather or latex gloves while spanking also reduces the sting to both partners while inviting a most tantalizing new sound to the experience. You may also want to consider using a fur mitt when slapping your partner’s behind for another variation. However, if you and your partner are more interested in a smarting spanking experience, a flat, open hand with fingers spread wide will certainly do the trick.
In order to spank your lover’s buttocks effectively, you will need to make sure that you have ample room to maneuver freely. Consider sitting or standing in a position that allows you to swing your arm without any obstructions yet also provides a full view of your partner’s bare bottom.
If using sexual spanking as part of your foreplay or role-play activities a proper warmup is essential. Begin the session by gently caressing and squeezing your partner’s derriere with your hand. This initial contact reinforces trust and intimacy while mentally and physically preparing both of you for what is about to commence.
Start with a few light taps and perhaps an occasional squeeze or two to allow your partner to ease into the sensations before you administer more calculated strokes and harder spanks. Your slapping should be rapid with your hand leaving your partner’s bottom immediately following contact in order to reduce the impact and avoid the risk of oversensitivity. For those new to spanking, focus your slaps on the fleshiest part of the buttocks. Use a rhythmic, upward “lifting” motion when spanking. Alternate your slaps between different regions of each cheek and avoid hitting the area at the top of the buttocks where the kidneys are located. Avoid the tailbone and spine too.
There is, however, another area of the fanny that you are more than encouraged to spank. It is the region that encompasses the thinner-skinned, lower inside corner of each cheek, the lower portion of the buttocks as well as the top of the thighs. Known as “the sweet spot”, spanking this section can cause intense sensations within the genitals and even trigger an orgasm.
When your spanking becomes more ardent; either when your partner’s bottom is sufficiently warmed up or their arousal is high, be sure to pepper your hard strikes with soft, gentle strokes and provide some attention to their genital area too. Not only will this avoid sensory overload of the partner being spanked, it enables the sexual tension to rise gradually; so be sure to take your time. To enhance the experience for your lover, keep it unpredictable by alternating the degrees of intensity and the areas you are spanking.
Remember that as you continue to smack your partner’s behind, not only will their buttocks become numb, their bloodstream will soon flood with endorphins – those natural pain killers – causing an increase in their pain threshold so pay attention and keep a close eye at all times. Until you are aware of your partner’s tolerance for sexual spanking, it is best to err on the side of caution. Opt for a lovely shade of pink only.
When hand spanking is complete, you can extend the sensations to your partner’s derriere by engaging in sexual intercourse. For the woman, a rear-entry position would have her partner hitting the area just spanked with each thrust of his hips. For the man, any woman-on-top position would rub his tender tush against the bedsheets or other surface.The missionary position can often work for the same reason for the woman. Whatever sex position is selected, it will no doubt be the perfect ending to a well-administered sexual spanking. ♥
Do you partake in sexual spanking? If so, what recommendations would you offer?