I recently returned home a day early from a girls’ weekend to find my husband of three years applying make-up. W
hen I questioned him, he admitted he’d been doing it for years and insisted it was “no big deal”.
If that’s the case, why was he so secretive about it, hiding his cosmetics in a place I didn’t even know existed?
I don’t know how I never noticed it was going on before, but now it all makes sense.
This may not seem like a big deal to you and maybe I am overreacting, but I can’t help thinking that if he can hide this so well, maybe he’s concealing other things from me.
How can I talk to him about it?
I wouldn’t immediately jump to the conclusion that he’s hiding everything from you. I’m sure he was simply scared to discuss it with you because he wasn’t sure how you’d react – the fear was holding him back.
You don’t sound overly shocked by this revelation so start the conversation by asking him why he does it and what he gets out of it. Encourage him to talk to you and then you can decide how you feel about it. And tell him it rocked you because you had no idea.
Maybe it will be a case of you not minding him doing it at home, but you don’t want to go out in public with him when he’s wearing make-up.
And don’t assume he’s gay or that he wants to be a woman (like Kellie Maloney and Caitlyn Jenner).
I’ve met many transvestites who are very happily married. Once you get talking, it might actually reassure you, but you need him to be 100% truthful.
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