Women, like men, have their favorite sex tricks. Some may prefer sex when it’s slow and romantic, others like it a little rough. And even when you get tuned into their favorite positions and how they like to go to about it, there’s still certain moves to learn. That one caress in a specific place that will drive them wild.
Discovering those details is so much of the fun. “Every woman’s specific sex preferences are different,” says relationship expert Laurel House. “Some women love doggy style while others simply can’t get off when taking it from behind. Other women prefer the pressure of a man’s body on top of her in good old-fashioned missionary,” she says.
We spoke to House and other experts to give you some of the best sex tricks you can possibly pull off. Don’t worry, this isn’t just for you; she might just enjoy these way more than you do.
“Women absolutely LOVE anticipation. When I’m engaging with my woman, I enjoy beginning the process much earlier in the day. I’ll often sneak up behind her — half hard — and tell her I can’t wait to taste her later while pressing myself against her,” says Brenden Dilley, celebrity life coach and author of Still Breathin’: The Wisdom & Teachings of a Perfectly Flawed Man.
“Build the anticipation by kissing her passionately while firmly gripping her hair and ever so gently pulling her head away and then close and away once more…teasing her and mimicking the rhythm we have during sex,” says Dilley. Obviously you only want to try this with someone you’re already intimate with; but that extra bit of anticipation and play can make all the difference.
Head To Route 69
Most guys enjoy when their lady gives them a blowjob. It should come as no surprise then, that women love it when their guy goes down on them at the same time! “To be able to come to a mutual climax is the high point of intimacy when both partners feel safe enough to respond to their impulses free from inhibitions,” says Dr. Fran Walfish, a relationship psychotherapist and author of The Self-Aware Parent, co-starring on Sex Box on WE tv.
Whether from behind or on top, pull almost completely out and let her feel just the tip (yeah, like you used to do… “Just the tip!”). “As badly as you want to push in completely, tease her with your tip for a few seconds until she begs to have you completely inside her,” says House.
Stimulate Her Nipples
Many people can have orgasms through nipple stimulation alone, saysMark Michaels, co-author of Partners in Passion, Great Sex Made Simple, Tantra for Erotic Empowerment, and The Essence of Tantric Sexuality. “Try licking the nipples and then blowing on them. The nipples contain erectile tissue, so the cooling effect is likely to make them hard,” says Michaels. You can also try pinching, rolling, and tugging. “Moisten your fingers with saliva first, and use your thumb and index and middle fingers to tease the areolas and nipples. Since the nipples have more nerves than the areolas, sliding from areola to nipple again and again can build and intensify arousal. For some lucky people, this alone will be enough to produce an orgasm,” says Michaels.
“When you’re deep inside her, press your finger into her ass to the depth of your first joint, then move your finger in a ‘come here’ motion,” says House. “Being taken by you, in multiple orifices, can lead her to having an even more intense orgasm.”
Just don’t pull this trick every time. Test if she wants it by encircling your finger around her anus and see if she pushes up against you- showing that she wants you to insert your finger, or pulls away, letting you know that she doesn’t want that type of play tonight.
Palm Her Lower Back
When you’re having sex with her from behind, you shouldn’t forget about her back — it’s one of the best sex tricks out there.
“Stimulating the sacrum (the five fused vertebrae at the base of the spine, often called the small of the back) in this position can add to your partner’s arousal,” says Michaels. This area is super sensitive. “The sacral nerves run from the sacrum to the genitals, as well as through the legs to the soles of the feet. These nerves play an important part in the orgasmic response, and stimulating them electrically has shown promise as a treatment for people who are unable to experience orgasm,” Michaels says.
The best way to engage the sacrum in this position is to tap gently at first with the fingertips of one hand. You’ll need the other to keep your balance and continue thrusting. Next, says Michaels, you can move into gentle percussion with the knife-edge of your hand, like a soft karate chop. “Check in to determine what feels best. You can also place the palm of your hand on the sacrum and rub, producing friction, or hold it in place and vibrate it. All of these methods can produce an intensified state of arousal,” says Michaels.
Nuzzle Her Neck
The neck is often overlooked but it’s a major erogenous zone. “A bite on the neck is part of the mating ritual in cats and other members of the animal kingdom. The nape of the neck is very sensitive to more subtle contact, so there’s no need to be as aggressive as a wildcat, although getting bitten in this area can be a huge turn-on too, especially if you’re already highly aroused,” says Patricia Johnson, co-author of Partners in Passion, Great Sex Made Simple, Tantra for Erotic Empowerment, and The Essence of Tantric Sexuality.