Here’s How You And Your Girlfriend Can Make The Most Out Of A Minute
Quickies can be great. And, believe it not, women love them too. But only when they’re done right and our pleasure is on the menu too. What can make a quickie work for a woman? Well, here are nine things that will help get you on the road to quickie success!
1. Give her a head start
Sure, sometimes a quickie is a spontaneous sort of affair. But why not plan for one? Before your partner heads off to work in the morning, let her in on your plans to play that evening before you head out for that dinner or work event you already have on the calendar. She’ll be thinking about you all day and when the time comes to play, she’ll already have you – and an orgasm – on her mind. Remember, sex is at least 50% mental – especially for women. So get her head in the game early.
OK, I’m not talking risking life and limb here. But wondering if you might get caught any second, can really up the excitement ante. You generally want to secure the perimeter when you are settling in for a long session. But when it’s a quickie you have in mind, making things a little more daring can up the excitement and pick up the pace. So leave that door or window cracked or time things just a little too close and let the threat of being caught get her to the finish line sooner.
Even quickies deserve a good setting. Most women relish a safe, comfortable, clean environment when it comes to sex. So forget that filthy bar bathroom or that cheap hotel. Nothing is less sexy then worrying about dirty sheets – or worse. If you want your partner to get off in good time, make sure the setting is appealing. Remember, the proper setting can go a long way to keep your partner’s mind on getting “dirty” and not on getting dirty…
4. Oral first
The tongue is an ideal tool for getting a woman ready for a quickie. The clitoris is where you ultimately want to focus your energy any time you want to pleasure a woman – put particularly when time is of the essence. If you want to get her to the finish line fast, kiss your way down between her legs. Spend time on her outer lips first and then and let your tongue find her clitoris and refuse to stray. And when she says she ready for you, watch out, orgasm is likely soon to follow.
5. Think pleasure, not orgasm
Sure, orgasm is great and is generally the goal when it comes to sex. But if you focus on pleasure instead of orgasm, orgasm is actually more likely to come – and to come more quickly! So, relax and suggest she do the same. Touch and kiss and rub and play and let the moment take you where it wants to go, before you know it, the big O will likely follow!
6. Assume the position
The center of women’s pleasure is the clitoris, not the vagina. So while penetration is the key sex act for most men, it’s not at all the main attraction when it comes to female orgasm. So, to make it work, especially during a quickie, it’s imperative that a woman be very aroused and that the position you choose allows for clitoral stimulation. Her on top is a great pick so she can rub against you as you thrust. If she prefers deeper penetration and wants to be taken from behind, be sure to reach around and tend to her clitoris as well. If she prefers deeper penetration and wants to be taken from behind, be sure to reach around and tend to her clitoris or have her take care of that bit of business herself!
7. You can leave your hat on…
And whatever else you like for that matter. Getting naked is generally on the menu when it comes to sex. But when you’re talking quickie, the less you take off the better. There’s something very sexy about having your partner slide your skirt up or your jeans down and not bother with stripping you naked. So expose the bits that you plan to bring into play and leave the rest to the imagination!
8. Bring on the props
Just because it’s a quickie doesn’t mean you can’t bring some props into the equation. It doesn’t have to be anything over the top. So think about things you may already have on hand – a tie or scarf can easily double as restraints. Feathers or ice cubes can make for fun sensory play. And an eye mask or blindfold can amp up the anticipation and help get her to the big O in record time!
9. Focus on her
Quickies can be much easier for men than for women when it comes to reaching orgasm if penetration is center stage. So, wait to penetrate her and focus on her excitement to know when she is ready for you to enter her. Do it too soon and there’s no way the quickie will get her there. But wait until she’s ready, focusing on her breathing and how she moves, and she will be chomping at the bit for you get her to finish line.
Try these tips to make any quickie work for her as much as it works for you. There’s nothing a woman appreciates more in bed than a man who is as hungry for her pleasure as he is for his own.