Although having sex while pregnant is considered safe in most cases, every woman is going to approach it a little differently. Here, seven women break down exactly how it felt to get it bumping with a baby bump.
1. “Sex while pregnant was okay at first, but after I started to show it got kinda weird! Everyone said that my sex drive was going to go up and be so much more intense, but unfortunately that wasn’t the case for me. I was showing really early, so my stomach was really big [for most of my pregnancy]. I also swelled up like a balloon in my legs and ankles, and was just uncomfortable most of the time. And my son moved a lot! Having sex with a giant belly that’s hard to move around was super awkward. My husband was much more careful with me than before I was pregnant. I don’t think he wanted to do anything to risk any type of injury or trauma to me or the baby. Plus, since the baby moved so much, he’d often feel a foot or elbow popping out at him during intercourse. It was just too weird for him and he would take it as a sign to stop. We finally ended up just waiting until after the baby was born to get our sex lives back!”—Joey, 36
2. “In the first and third trimester my sex drive was lower than normal, but there was a sweet spot in the middle where it was all I wanted. [Sex was] pain-relieving, exciting, and felt almost new. My husband found me so attractive throughout my pregnancy. He was more cautious in the end of the pregnancy, but with some reassurance he was more excited about it!” —Taylor, 23
3.“I am one of those people who gets crazy horny when I’m pregnant, particularly in the second trimester. In the first trimester, I’m usually too exhausted to think about sex. But by the time the second trimester hits, I’m raring to go. With a toddler it’s hard to find time for sex with my partner, so I often just have sex with myself. When we do have sex together, the belly becomes a bigger consideration and there are some positions that just aren’t workable! Missionary is harder, because it can get tough to breathe while lying on your back and your partner can’t lean in close because of the belly. Obviously lying on your belly doesn’t work, either. Anything super athletic tends to go out the door, too. Your body is just so much more cumbersome and heavy. Fortunately my husband just treats me like a normal person and doesn’t get all concerned about being too careful or anything — it’s just normal sex, made a little sweeter by the fact that I’m growing a life we created together.”—Lopa, 35
4. “I was extremely pleased to discover that a big bonus of being pregnant were the pregnancy orgasms with a capital O. I experienced having multiple orgasms before being pregnant, but it was never the norm. When I was pregnant, multiple orgasms became regular and rather expected. My sex drive was in high gear and my body response was intense. Your body feels radiant and beautiful which adds to your confidence. I also think that the connection is intensified between you and your partner. My husband was definitely more careful at first (checking that I was okay and if the position suited me as I got further along in the pregnancy), but soon realized I was very okay and enjoying things a lot. “—Kerry, 35
5. “Sex does differ when you’re pregnant. Once you initially find out you’re expecting the gut reaction is to pull back a bit to be ‘careful,’ despite whether there is actually anything to be concerned about. By the second trimester, I got my energy back and my sex drive was five times as strong. I was producing more discharge around the 12 week mark, which made sex more enjoyable and messy. I was ready all the time. My partner tried to be very aware of positions and how they might feel to me. He could feel me tense up and would ask if I was pain and if I wanted to change positions. During the second trimester, being on top was the most comfortable, and in the third trimester, doggy style was the most comfortable. What feels good one day may change a week later, so its important to be very open and honest with your partner to ensure it’s comfortable and pleasant for both. “—Meredith*, 36
6.“Everything with me was heightened while I was pregnant. My sex drive was so much higher than normal and my husband did not mind. Typically we we would have sex three times a week and it changed to three times a day. I was a little scared to have sex initially because I had no idea what effect it would have on the baby. My husband quickly assured me we’d be fine. As the pregnancy continued, around six and seven months, we did have to be more careful and particular on what position we did just for my own personal comfort. Me on top or my partner entering me from behind worked the best, while missionary was super uncomfortable.”—Kiedra, 32
7. “For me, sex during pregnancy is absolutely fantastic — like mind-blowing fun and excitement. I feel like a true life-giving, orgasm-having, divinely feminine, sex goddess! I had no idea pregnant sex and masturbation were so great until I experienced it. The enhanced orgasms and heightened sensations of pregnant sex are a serious consolation prize for the common discomforts that women experience in pregnancy like nausea, extreme fatigue, breast tenderness, etc. So to all the mamas out there feeling silly or shocked by their bodies’ desire to get down while they gestate: If there is no medical reason for holding back, then do yourself (and your partner) a favor and get freaky.”—Abby, 30
*Names have been changed.
Answers have been lightly edited for clarity.