I don’t want to give up on our relationship as we’ve overcome lots of hurdles but I think the carer in these situations is often forgotten
I’m living with someone who’s suffering from depression and it’s getting harder and harder to cope with the changes in his mood.
I don’t know from day to day how it’s going to be. I try to be strong and not let it get me down and I know I don’t need antidepressants myself but I feel like I just need an ear sometimes to get things off my chest.
I don’t want to give up on our relationship as we’ve been together for a long time and have overcome lots of hurdles but I think the carer in these situations is often forgotten. Any advice?
Depression is an incredibly tough thing to live with and I totally agree that the people who are close to those going through it are often forgotten.
It’s hard for both the person who is suffering and for those around them who are trying to help. You absolutely need someone to talk to rather than bottling it up inside.
Organisations such as Mind aren’t just there for the person who has a mental health problem but also offer advice for carers.
You can also contact Carers UK and Carers Trust, which has an online chatroom.
Part of the problem is that you feel isolated, so talking to others who are in your situation or have come through it is invaluable. Don’t be frightened to get help.
Having some counselling yourself could also provide that ear you’re looking for, help you work through some of the issues and get things off your chest.
It’s also vital to look after yourself. Take time out from the situation and do things that help you relax and forget about it for a while – and you mustn’t feel guilty about doing that.
It shows strength to ask for help in dealing with it, not weakness. It’ll benefit you both.