She called and suggested we take things slowly, learn to trust each other again, become friends and meet up and see what happens
I’m an ordinary 31-year-old guy and I’m confused!
Back in January my very first love contacted me after 13 years. I was pretty shocked because I never imagined I’d hear from her again.
We got talking and she asked me if I was single.
She then went on to say that she wanted to show me that she had a heart and she was sorry about what had happened in the past.
Recently, she called and suggested we take things slowly, learn to trust each other again, become friends and meet up and see what happens.
I thought, OK, it sounds good to me. Then she said: “What if you don’t fancy me?” I replied: “Why wouldn’t I? You were lovely when we were together.”
She said she’d be in touch, then hung up.
But since then she has deleted her Facebook account (she told me she did that sometimes when she was fed up) and she hasn’t called either.
Her friends have told me she will contact me but, truthfully, I’m not sure and I’m trying to work out why she’d get in touch with me and say all this stuff.
I feel like she’s built my hopes up for nothing and I’m confused. What do I do?
This girl is either very mixed up or is playing games.
One thing is certain, though, she’s the same person she was all those years ago when you split up.
She claimed she wanted to prove she has a heart.
Well, she’s proved the opposite.
I don’t think you’ve missed this girl in the time you’ve been apart.
I think you were intrigued to see her again when she got in touch – it’s exciting wondering what she’ll be like and if you’d still feel the same things for her.
But she hasn’t proved her worth.
You’ve been through this before with her, but have gone 13 years without her and you’ve been perfectly happy.
Do you really want someone who can leave you in limbo like that back in your life?
In my opinion she is not a nice person.
Who knows why she built up your hopes – maybe she’s just an ego maniac and wanted to know that she could get you straight back after all this time if she wanted to.
I certainly wouldn’t do any of the running after how she’s behaved.