I have asked him if he can help me financially and he keeps telling me that he will but he wants me to open a bank account in order for him to send me money
I’ve had a boyfriend for a few months. We met and chat online, but have never met in person as he is out of the country working.
First he told me he would be coming home on February 14, but he didn’t.
He then explained he wants to get all his business transactions cleared before he comes back.
He and I would call, text, and email each other from Monday to Saturday, but he would ignore me every Sunday because he goes to church and sleeps the rest of the day.
On Saturdays he would do his laundry and clean the house.
I have asked him if he can help me financially and he keeps telling me that he will but he wants me to open a bank account in order for him to send me money.
Recently, he has been making excuses about not talking to me that much because he’s too busy with work.
He’s also said that his phone is acting up because it’s been damaged.
He keeps making excuse after excuse, but I want to believe him.
I have so much I want to tell him, but it’s hard for me to open up and confide in him because I have been hurt all my life and plus he is out of the country.
I really don’t know what to do.
First of all, he’s not your boyfriend, he’s a virtual boyfriend. You’ve never met him!
Whatever you’re saying to each other online, you don’t know each other at all and, by the sounds of it, he’s leading you a merry dance.
Perhaps he’s not contacting you at weekends because he’s spending time with his wife and kids?
Sorry if that sounds cynical, but you cannot think of this as a relationship until you’ve had a relationship in the flesh.
And why are you asking someone you’ve never met to help you out financially?
On a serious note, you don’t even know if it’s the real him.
A friend of mine had an online “lover” who wasn’t who he said he was.
She fell in love with this person, but he was using someone else’s identity and pretending to be this gorgeous guy online.
And every time they arranged to meet he made an excuse to get out of it.
I think because you’ve been hurt in the past, you’re perhaps nervous of getting involved with a “real” person, but you could end up terribly hurt if this person turns out to be a fraud.