Guilty pleasures… we all have them! Maybe you enjoy singing Westlife in the shower, or perhaps your favourite TV show is 90 Day Fiancé. We don’t judge! But! We do see why these things could be considered a guilty pleasure.
And when it comes to sexual guilty pleasures, the notion is essentially the same….
What is a Sexual Guilty Pleasure?
Let’s first look at the term ‘guilty pleasure’, just so that we’re all on the same page, shall we?
A guilty pleasure is something that someone enjoys but who would be embarrassed by if someone were to find out… aka singing pop tunes or watching reality TV.
It’s that moment when a person walks into your room and you sprint to change the TV channel or quickly close your computer screen because you’re fearful of others seeing… what you’re seeing (and surely we’ve all been there, right?).
Having said that, sexual guilty pleasures are arguably even more embarrassing for some. This is because there is still a stigma when it comes to sex and sexuality, with some individuals still holding a sense of shame surrounding their sexual selves.
Luckily, this is a safe space, and you’re free to indulge or divulge with us as much or as little as you like! So, what’s your go-to sexual guilty pleasure?
Examples of Sexual Guilty Pleasures
It’s at this point where you may be asking yourself, “Do I have a sexual guilty pleasure?”.
Here are some of the most common sexual guilty pleasures today. Do you identify with any of them?
Having sex in public
Being called derogatory names during sex
Rape role play
With these common sexual guilty pleasures in mind, a question to ponder on is: if you’re not embarrassed by what one may consider to be a sexual guilty pleasure, is it still a sexual guilty pleasure?
For some, telling anyone who’ll listen about their favourite things to do in the bedroom, no matter how strange or non-mainstream it may seem, is completely normal. There’s zero shame in the game for many, which basically negates the notion of a sexual guilty pleasure.
Benefits of Not Being Ashamed by Your Sexual Guilty Pleasures
For those who have sexual guilty pleasures and are actively ashamed or embarrassed by them, what would life look like if said-shame or embarrassment didn’t exist?
Well, when we shed self-imposed embarrassment about our sexual interests, it can actually be very empowering. It will also take away some of the guilt surrounding those interests, allowing you to enjoy them more without negative emotions or experiences.
And as Dr. Neff, an associate professor at the University of Texas, said: “When you feel guilty, but haven’t harmed anyone, then you’re just in the realm of perfectionism or criticism.”
In other words: if you enjoy pegging your partner every Tuesday, being dominated by a woman, or get aroused by the sight, taste, touch, or smell of feet, that’s actually totally fine. You’re not harming anyone (as long as your play is consensual), so we say, you do you!