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Men have a big problem with romance. Here is the generic scenario: You meet a beautiful woman whom you want to make the future mother of your offspring. You expend an inordinate amount of effort in order to convince her of your potential worth as a partner.
You forget to eat. You forget to sleep. You almost lose your job over her. You extend one romantic gesture after another. And in the end, you get the girl. Her heart is in the palm of your hand. She is all over you now. Life is sweet. You have found your dream woman.
But now the chase is over. Like a panther on the prowl, you have captured your prey and satiated your hunger. Now content, you laze away in the shade, lethargic and in a trance. You have lost your drive to please her. Your focus was to win her over and now that she has been won, you feel like the mission is complete.
you snooze, you lose her
My advice is to wake up or lose your woman to a player with charm and finesse. Despite your total state of oblivion, she is alert to your lack of effort. It may not kick in from the start, but the female sense of neglect is acute. If you want to avoid the pitfall of so many other men before you, the time for romance is now. Shape up or your woman will ship out.
Now my advice is not for men to kneel and beg, or spoil and shower a woman with an overabundance of material loot. I do however, advocate attention, affection and consideration. That triumvirate is more valuable than any gift you can ever give her — and more effective.
A regular dose of romance will invigorate your relationship and fuel her love and desire for you. There is no valid reason not to treat the woman you love like a queen. Why take her for granted? Some men seem to equate the latter with proof of their masculine identity. What a load of bull.
If you feel emasculated by romance, you need the counsel of a therapist. And your woman should leave you for a man who can appreciate her. Tough pill to swallow? Read on to avoid that harsh lesson.
The key to romance is spontaneity. If she can predict your move, your gesture will lose effect fast. Sure the thought is important but your mission is to blow her away, not get credit for a lame attempt at romance so you can cross it off your list. You need to be inventive and use the element of surprise to your advantage. The more “male” you are in her book, the better. Because the “typical man” is not romantic by nature, correct?
So do what you do to maintain your masculine mystique. Watch football, drink beer, ogle (I prefer the term “appreciate”) women, and forget the occasional double date with her sister and brother-in-law. No problem. In fact, the more “male” you behave, the better. Because when you present her with a rose and a love card or surprise her with dinner at her favorite restaurant, you demonstrate how complex you are.
You can be it all and have it all…